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Joe Cocker – With a little help from my friends

What would you think if I sang out of tune, Would you stand up and walk out on me ? Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song And I’ll try not to sing out of key. Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends What do I do when my love is away (Does it worry you to be alone ?) How do I feel by the end of the day, (Are you sad because you’re on your own ?) No, I get by ...

Checklist for evaluating maturity

The difficulties of coping with alcoholism in another are much more effectively met when we ourselves reflect attitudes of mature adults. A mature adult is one who:   1.    Does not automatically resent criticism, realizing that it may contain a suggestion for self-improvement.   2.    Knows that self-pity is futile and childish–a way of placing the blame for disappointments on others.   3.    Does not readily experience a loss of temper or „fly off the handle” about trifles.   4.    Keeps calm in emergencies and deals with them in a logical, reasonable fashion.   5.    Accepts responsibility without blaming others when things go ...

Detachment

Alcoholism is a family disease. Living with someone who has the disease is too devastating for most people to bear without help. Detatchment, a recovery tool for the family in Al-Anon, has helped members to help themselves. In Al-Anon, family members learn that individuals are not responsible for another person’s disease or recovery from it. They let go of their obsessions with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights; lives guided by the Power greater than themselves. IN AL-ANON A PERSON LEARNS: Not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other ...

Just for today

Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that „Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires, I will take my „luck” as it comes, ...

Adult Children’s Bill of Rights

You Have A Right To: Put yourself first. Make mistakes. Accept all your feelings as valid. Your opinions and convictions. Change your mind or behavior. Protest unfair treatment. Negotiate for change. Express yourself. Ask for help or emotional support. Ignore advice. Say „No” Be alone, even if others prefer your company. Not take responsibility for another’s problem It Is Not Your Responsibility To: Give what you can’t or don’t wish to give. Sacrifice your integrity to any cause or person. Drain yourself in caring for others. Put up with unfair treatment. Conform to unreasonable demands. Be perfect. Follow the crowd. Feel guilty ...

Styles of distorted thinking

Filtering: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of the situation. Polarized Thinking: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you are a failure. There is no middle ground. Over Generalization: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or other piece of evidence. If something bad happens once, you expect it to happen over and over again. Mind Reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able ...

The Laundry List

The ACOA Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is ...

Słuchaj!

Słuchaj! Gdy proszę, byś mnie wysłuchał,a ty zaczynasz udzielać mi rad,nie robisz tego, o co cię proszę.Gdy proszę, byś mnie wysłuchał,a ty zaczynasz mi mówić,dlaczego powinienem czuć inaczej,depczesz moje uczucia.Gdy proszę, byś mnie wysłuchał,a ty uważasz, że powinieneś coś zrobić,by rozwiązać mój problem,zawodzisz mnie,choć może wydać się to dziwne.Słuchaj! Prosiłem tylko o jedno,nic nie mów i nie rób – po prostu mnie wysłuchaj.Rada kosztuje niewiele, może ze dwadzieścia centów,cenę jednej gazety,udzielą ci jej Dear Abby i Billy Graham.A ja poradzę sobie sam. Nie jestem bezradny.Może trochę zniechęcony i zagubiony,ale nie bezradny.Gdy robisz za mnie coś, co potrafięi powinienem robić sam,sprawiasz, ...

The Saturdays

Sometimes I Feel like I’m going out of My Mind, Boy The Way You Do Me Is A Damn Crime, But Then You Smile At Me And Its Allright, With You There Ain’t No Inbetween… Everytime That I Walk Out The Door I Tell Myself I Can’t Take It No More Theres a Part Of Me Won’t Let You Go I Keep Sayin’ Yes When My Minds Sayin No.. Chorus: Me And My Heart We Got Issues Don’t Know If I Should Hate You Or Miss You Damn I Wish That I Could Resist You Can’t Decide If I Should Slap You Or Kiss You, Me And My Heart We Got Issues,Issues,Issues We Got Issues Issues Issues. Its Awful, ...

SPIRITUAL HEALTH

                              ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Even though… - my parents weren’t available to me, I can be. - my parents couldn’t admit that I had needs, I can. - my parents were in denial, I don’t have to be. - my parents couldn’t meet my needs, I am learning to. - my parents couldn’t say „I love you” when they were sober, I can admit my   love without being drunk. - my parents used alcohol to hide their feelings, I can admit that I have   feelings, and I can let them in. - my parents used alcohol to avoid listening to that still, small voice, I   can sit still and ...

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